Self-Care Series Part Two

Self-Care For Today’s Woman

Part Two: Lack of Self-Care


This blog series is for all women, single, married, and in between. I am Coach Marlene, known as the dating coach for single women.

If you are a new reader of my blogs or a regular reader, I frequently write about issues that apply to all women and women of any age..

My mission is to help ALL women become the very best versions of themselves and live their best lives.

I am a big supporter and advocate for women to establish a self-care program in their daily routines. It’s a must!

It’s one of the essential habits that establishes the goal of being your best self and offering it to the world around you.

In Part One, we looked at the first steps to change.

In Part Two, we’ll look at how the lack of self-care leads to unhappiness.

So, let’s get started! 


Lack of Self-Care Leads to An Unhappy Life 

Self-care is often treated and seen as a luxury. Women all over the world put themselves last.

They take care of everyone first; at the end of the day, there is no time left to do anything for themselves.

Even the necessities such as a shower or brushing their hair are often left undone.

Without self-care, you’ll likely feel stressed, tired, and generally unhappy.

Self-care is not a luxury, it’s a necessity, and I’m here to show you why and how it can lead to a longer, happier life!

Let’s look at how a lack of self-care can lead to an unhappy life. You’ll also learn some signs to watch out for that you need more self-care in your life.

  • You feel stressed and exhausted
  • Personal hygiene suffers
  • You seek unhealthy enjoyment
  • Gain weight
  • You never feel good enough

You Feel Stressed and Exhausted

You’ll feel stressed and exhausted when you’re not caring for yourself. You’re exhausted from taking care of everyone else’s needs.

You start feeling resentment, and that often leads to burnout. In time you start resenting your loved ones and taking it out on them.

You’re tired, irritable, and start becoming short-tempered, which leads to fights with your spouse and anger at your children.

Maintaining a positive outlook is impossible when you are constantly exhausted and stressed out.

It all happens over time if you don’t factor in self-care. Self-care helps to combat stress, and it also boosts your energy levels.


Personal Hygiene Suffers 

Establishing and maintaining a self-care regime is crucial for your mental health and personal hygiene.

A side effect of not following a self-care routine is that your hygiene could suffer. It starts because you don’t allow or factor in these daily necessities.

The trouble is that failing to take care of yourself makes you feel even worse. You don’t feel good about yourself anymore.

You reach a point where you no longer care what you look or feel. This is especially true for those experiencing depression.

You start falling into a low-grade depression. When you are depressed or low, self-care is the last thing on your mind.

In severe cases, you could spend days in bed. You stop doing basic self-care tasks such as showering or brushing your teeth. 

I know these are worst-case scenarios, but these things can and do happen without a self-care daily routine.

Every day must have a block of time designated for you and only you. Ask others to assist you and stress the importance of time for you.

In time you’ll start feeling less stressed and exhausted. You’ll start feeling good about yourself again.

You’ll become happier and take pride in how you look and feel about yourself again.

Stay with your routine. Do not let anything get in the way or sabotage your efforts. Next is just yet another consequence for a woman neglecting the self-care program.


You Seek Unhealthy Enjoyment 

When you lack self-care, in time, you start seeking unhealthy enjoyment. You’re looking for that something to make you feel better.

It could be overindulging in junk food because it’s briefly comforting. Or you could turn to alcohol or drugs to escape.

The potential for an illicit affair exists to feel validated. It often causes great harm to the family and the marriage if married.

If you are a single woman, getting into unhealthy relationships is highly probable.

As you can see, when you start turning to unhealthy habits for comfort, it will lead to additional issues.

You’ll also feel unhappier, mainly if you drink in excess. Alcohol is a depressant that can leave you feeling worse than when you started.

Not having a self-care routine puts you at risk for an unhappy, unfulfilled life. Value yourself, respect yourself, and live your best life.

We have covered a number of reasons to show the importance of setting up a self-care program. We have a few more to cover.


Weight Gain 

Weight gain is the one challenge so many women experiences. These ladies, at some level, have stopped taking care of themselves.

It’s such a vicious cycle. The more weight you gain, the unhappier you become, and you often turn back to food to comfort the unhappiness.

Weight gain zaps the energy and makes regular movements and activities difficult. Any form of exercise is avoided because movements are too challenging to do.

Weight gain itself comes with a host of damage it causes to your health. Health issues can be eliminated with proper weight.

Weight-bearing joints, hips, knees, and backs begin to suffer from too much weight. In time damage to these areas require invasive surgeries and medications. 

Often, medications are prescribed that are addictive and create a whole new set of health problems.

There is also the internal damage weight gain often causes—high Blood pressure, heart damage, and diabetes, to mention a few.

It can be challenging to lose weight, so focusing on a self-care program helps avoid this potential challenge.

Weight control is just part of the self-care regime in a self-care program. It includes healthy eating, exercise, and monitoring weight with a scale.

Never let yourself go over a specific weight limit. This can be controlled painlessly with light eating a day or two here and there.

I hope by now you can see the importance of self-care. You and you alone control the quality of your life.

I want to leave you with one more reason for a self-care program, and probably my favorite, as my mission is for every woman to live her best life.


You Never Feel Good Enough 

Self-care is something you do because you are worth it. Therefore, if you fail to care for yourself, you can feel like you are never good enough.  

As you’re constantly tired and juggling life’s responsibilities, you start to feel like you are a failure or don’t measure up to others.

These are just some things that can happen when you don’t follow a self-care routine.

The effects can be severe, causing you to be unhappy and unfulfilled.

If you want to lead a happier life, now is the time to focus on your needs and prioritize self-care.

You might be asking just what self-care is. What does that look like? What’s it supposed to look like?

I hear women saying they don’t have time or money for weekly hair and nail salon appointments. I don’t have money for regular massages and spa visits.

Ladies, it’s none of these. These are indulgences and pamperings. Nothing is wrong with doing these things, but this is not exactly what I’m talking about.

Self-care is loving yourself, respecting yourself, and making yourself a priority. Having standards, knowing what you’ll allow in your life and what you won’t.

Never allow disrespect or abuse from anyone. Remove yourself from anyone around you who exhibits behavior like this.

Self-care is looking out for yourself and treating yourself with the utmost care in every area of your life.

Self-care means being disciplined. Set aside time every day for yourself. I understand if your life is busy but remember to make yourself a priority.

It may be all you can fit on certain days, but make it at least a half-hour and do something for you—a walk, playing with the dog, a favorite TV show, etc.

It must be something that you enjoy and brings you joy and relaxation. Work on time management and always fit a time for you in it.

Be diligent and consistent about all medical appointments and schedule as needed. Your health is a crucial part of a self-care program.

Meal plan so you keep cooking healthy and nutritious. Create a fitness program that’s fun for you.

In a very short time, you will soon start to see noticeable changes in how you feel and how you feel about yourself.

Good work!


This completes Part Two of our Self-Care Series.


Now let’s see what Part Three has for us!


But before we go, always remember to

Be true to your magnificent self,
Coach Marlene

Connect with me!! I’d love to hear from you.

If you missed Part One