Happy or Unhappy the Choice is Yours

Unlocking The Secret to Happiness

By Marlene Wagner


There has been a big focus on mental health and the need to recognize the importance and understanding of well-being.

There is a correlation between mental health and the degree of joy or happiness in our lives. Life is unpredictable, and sometimes, things are out of control.

How we react to certain situations and how we show up in life determine how joyful or miserable our lives can be.

It takes intentional action to make life joyful. We can improve the degree of happiness and experience more joy.

What is happiness? There are different types and degrees of happiness.

Happiness is a multifaceted concept encompassing joy, contentment, fulfillment, and satisfaction. It’s a feeling, an emotion.

We will look at some strategies for living happier and adding more joy to our lives.


Internal vs. External Sources

There is a distinction between internal and external sources of happiness.

External factors such as material possessions and social status may contribute to transient happiness.

Internal factors like personal growth, relationships, and gratitude often lead to more sustainable forms of happiness.

Be mindful of the source of your happiness. External events and occurrences are fun, and we feel elated, but they’re fleeting.

The joy of the moment doesn’t last.

Internal factors have a longer sustaining power and can provide a profound sense of fulfillment, satisfaction, long-term joy, and happiness.


The Mindset

Your mindset has the most impact on your emotions. A negative or positive mindset will significantly affect the outcomes of your experiences.

There is great hope for chronic negative thinkers as the brain can be reprogrammed or retrained to think another way.

To have more happiness and experience more joy, start by embracing a positive mindset. To put it another way, stop the negative self-talk.

Rewire and re-frame your mindset to be more kind to yourself, and see how your life shifts from misery to joy.


Cultivating Positive Relationships

Nurturing relationships with friends and family is critical to our happiness and well-being.

Emphasizing the significance of healthy, supportive relationships fosters happiness.

Empathy, communication, and emotional intimacy build solid connections and have a positive impact on living a happy life.

We all need support in our lives and like-minded friends to share the joys of life.


Practicing Gratitude

Daily gratitude is a great happiness booster. How we start our day has an impact on the happiness factor.

There is a link between gratitude and happiness; people who express those emotions are more optimistic and happier.

Practicing gratitude cultivates a positive outlook, fosters resilience, and enhances overall well-being.

Start a gratitude journal into daily routines. It’s a reminder of positive events and being thankful for them.


Finding Purpose and Meaning

There is a relationship between happiness and having a sense of purpose or meaning in life.

Aligning personal values with meaningful activities and goals can provide profound fulfillment and satisfaction.

Finding a purpose is vital to live a joyful and fulfilled life.

Some people may find purpose in their work and job.

You can also find it outside of paid work, such as doing something for the good of the community or society.

Look inward and think about something you feel passionate about that gives back to the world, can bring in some income, and is something you are good at.

It is most likely to be your calling. When you find and prioritize your purpose, you have something to look forward to and wake up to every morning.

It gives you a sense of purpose and joy when you fulfill your purpose, leading to a happy and satisfied life.


Let Go of Things That No Longer Serve Us

Life is full of different phases, each requiring a different and more evolved version of you.

To live a joyful life, learn to let go of things, people, situations, and memories that no longer serve you.

Be clear on who and what deserves to move forward into the next season of your life.

It can help you let go and embrace release, leading to a happier life.

To live more joyfully, learn to let go of perfectionism and how you think life ‘should be’ or what ‘could have been.’

Embrace the present moment fully and declutter your life of habits, negative mindsets, toxic relationships, and feelings of regret, guilt, or shame from the past.

Learn to let go of any emotional baggage that may deter you from living a joyful life.


Be Kind and Compassionate to Yourself

Self-care is an integral part of living a happier life.

It can simply mean being kind and compassionate to yourself by not talking negatively to or about yourself.

It could also mean practicing self-care, like taking time out of work to rest and wind down instead of overworking yourself.

Focus on improving your mental and emotional well-being, caring for your body, and whatever else you prefer as self-care.

Joy can look different to every person. What you perceive as joy may not be the same for someone else.

Some may find joy in nurturing relationships, while others may prefer some ‘me time’ in solitude.

Discovering your version of joy is essential to live a happier life. Lastly, remember to fill your cup first to pour it into others.

You can’t pour from an empty cup, so find your purpose, do activities that enrich your life, let go quickly, lean on others, and laugh more to live a joyful life.


Happy or Unhappy

How many people think about their happiness and whether they have it or not?

Some people live with a quiet resolve and believe it’s what their life has dealt them and are neither happy nor unhappy.

On the other hand, most people know if they are happy or unhappy.

We have listed things here that can increase your happiness and ways to make and keep you unhappy.

The mindset and self-talk determine both. Negative thinking and negative self-talk affect happiness levels.

Fault finding, ungratefulness, and anger all hurt happiness.

Happiness is a choice. We choose every day to be happy or unhappy. When looking in the mirror, give yourself a big smile first thing in the morning.

Give yourself a high five in the mirror. It’s an instant mood elevator and sets the tone for the day.


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Until next time, starting today, make yourself a priority and begin living your best life. 

But before we go, always remember to

Be true to your magnificent self,
Coach Marlene

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