A Guide to Develop Your Self-Confidence
Remove your Shyness and Insecurities Once and For All
By Marlene Wagner
Having self-confidence affects so many areas of our lives and a process that evolves throughout our lives.
Do you ever look around and feel everyone in the world has self-confidence but you?
Everywhere you look, people appear self-assured. Would it come as a surprise to learn we all suffer from a lack of confidence in more than one area?
Remember that old saying, “Fake it ’til you make it,” has never been more meaningful than when dealing with confidence issues.
We all lack confidence
We all lack confidence in some areas of our lives. Confidence is an essential personality trait you can develop to better deal with life’s transitions – both personal and professional.
Once you learn to recognize when you feel your insecurities is when you can work through it.
Your greatest motivation to deal head-on with shyness and self-consciousness is that it will never serve you in the right way.
You will always feel powerless in that area of your life.
I am all about empowering and enabling you to start breaking down the areas that hold you back and do something about changing it.
That may seem scary to you. However, it’s not as difficult as you think.
I am here to help you do that
Together we will break down the barriers that are keeping you stuck. Where you’re stuck is where you lack confidence and not trusting yourself.
Trust and Confidence Go Hand-in-Hand. No one is born with confidence.
It is something people learn and develop during their lives. It’s the same for you. If you have had difficulty trusting yourself, it may be a sign that you lack confidence.
You cannot develop any trust without confidence. Feel secure in your abilities and be strong in your convictions.
Take steps to develop your confidence and trusting yourself will become easy.
Fear is the biggest detractor from confidence. When you give in to your fears, you will diminish the chances of building up your confidence.
That is something that deepens if you don’t handle it quickly. It would be best if you faced your fears head-on.
It amazes me when I learn about various individuals and how they have suffered from a lack of confidence.
Public speakers in demand on speaking platforms are terrified and never feel confident in delivering a compelling message, and are paid thousands for their speeches.
I’ve known high profile people in a business that are brilliant on the job but have incredible social phobias. I hear stories about talented individuals that sabotaged opportunities because of their shyness and insecurities.
What that doesn’t mean is that you should throw caution to the wind and be reckless. You should take chances, but only if they won’t put your life or others’ lives in danger.
Confidence is about knowing the difference
We’re going to start by creating the foundation for self-confidence. How we feel about ourselves and how we see ourselves can make or break us.
Start with small tasks that you have been afraid to try in the past. Most outcomes will turn out better than you imagine.
If you try to project what will happen and always have a negative outcome, you will never make any decisions.
Take on those small tasks without overthinking about what’s going to happen. That will build up your confidence as you’ve never seen before.
It would help if you asked questions when you aren’t sure about the situations you face.
Confidence is not about having all the answers. It’s about knowing where to find them and who to rely on with the knowledge that you need.
It’s also about pulling the trigger when you have gathered enough information.
Confidence is about taking responsibility for your decisions and your actions. If you believe in what you are doing, you can portray that belief to others affected by your choices.
You will come across as weak if you start blaming others when your situation doesn’t go as planned. Once this happens, others will lose faith in you.
That will cause your confidence to erode, and self-doubt will take over. When you make your decisions, you own them, even if they don’t work out.
Increase your confidence
When you increase your confidence, you will automatically increase trusting yourself. Then, you can accomplish more than you ever imagined.
Start paying attention and listen to yourself talk. Every time you say you want something or want to do something, pay attention to what you tell yourself about it.
Every time you make a judgment about yourself, write it down or make a note of it.
Get used to doing this because once you get into the habit of listening to your “self-talk,” you’ll be well on your way to making significant changes in building your confidence.
Your critical self-talk is your excuse. Only you can change yourself. Nobody can do it for you.
Suppose you’re working on a goal you have and reached a point where you’ve stopped yourself. Now you are stuck. You can’t bring yourself to take the next step.
That can be an indicator of lacking confidence. You’re holding back because of fear going forward.
Have you stopped yourself because you don’t know how to do that next step?
What would that next step be
What would that next step be for you? Is it something you have to learn before moving on? Don’t let it stop you.
Find out where and how you can gain the knowledge or know-how to take the next step.
Is fear stopping you? When you’re not afraid, you’re in your comfort zone. If you’re scared of the next step, it’s the action that takes you out of your comfort zone.
To make changes, we must learn how to break free and break out into uncomfortable situations to grow.
Its unfortunate people allow it to stop them and keeps them from growing and living full lives. Don’t be one of them.
If you need help, seek help from a friend, support group, or coach. Help is available for every challenge we face.
It’s time to take action. You’ve decided you’re going to do this, you’ve created a plan, and now it’s time to take action and implement your first confidence-building strategy.
It will change how you feel about yourself in ways you never imagined. You’ll see how wonderful and great really you are.
Be true to your magnificent self,