Are You Feeling Stuck Somewhere in Your Life?
5 Ways to Get Going Again
by Marlene Wagner
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The start of a new year brings on new goals, hopes, and all you plan to achieve—a time to hit the restart button again.
We feel the excitement and anticipation of what the new year holds for us. It’s a feeling of getting a brand-new start.
However, that may not be the case for others who feel stuck in some area of their lives.
They see another year of unhappiness and dread in some areas. They feel stuck somewhere and look to the new year as another year of the same.
How do you recognize or know you are stuck? You lack motivation, and you’re just going through the motions. You have no control over your life.
Most of us have probably felt stuck somewhere in our lives and had trouble figuring out how to get unstuck and move on.
Feeling stuck can be in any area of life. It may be stuck in a dead-end job you dislike—a marriage or relationship you no longer want to be in.
It can be in just about any area you are unhappy in and don’t see a way out of or can change.
There are many areas people don’t identify as conditions of being stuck. Here are a few that may jog your memory or get you thinking about your life.
First, I want to give you the definition of being stuck. It’s a condition you cannot change. It’s a sense, an ache, an itch, something you can’t change.
You no longer feel you live in the moment. You look at things going on around you, and you feel hopeless. You are no longer in the driver’s seat.
Here are a few on a list of many. You are unhappy with your weight, appearance, boring friends, unhappiness in your social life, daily traffic, commuting to work, or being stuck at a desk all day.
Clutter and don’t know where to begin. It can be clutter in your home and or digital clutter. A big one these days.
Stuck in the past, letting go of a loved one no longer in your life. Stuck in a past traumatic event.
Addictions, alcohol, drugs, gambling, living a dangerous lifestyle. A mental health condition.
The list is endless, but this can give you a good start in recognizing where you may be stuck.
It leads me to number one of getting unstuck.
Become More Aware
One place you can start when you feel stuck is your awareness.
Identify where you feel stuck.
Start slow with small changes. Believe in yourself. Change your perspective and let go of what was or what you’d hope it would be.
Spend time thinking about it. Start doing a self-examination of the area you are stuck in. How and when did it start, or you recognized being stuck?
When did you start feeling a dislike for the condition? When did you start thinking of how you could change the situation and couldn’t find a way to do that?
You may find that distortions or defense mechanisms are in place, making it hard to be aware of a solution.
Our belief systems and default patterns in relationships could be to blame. You would avoid changing a situation because of how it would affect someone else.
You may handle this on your own, or there are ways to pursue getting help to get you on a corrective path.
2. Take on Responsibility
Do you feel it’s someone else’s fault you’re in your stuckness? Many people find it easier to blame someone than take responsibility for their actions.
You may not want to admit when you have done something wrong, but it can be freeing.
Stop for a moment and take an honest inventory of what you may have done wrong that created the condition.
Practice forgiveness for others and yourself, as in the case of a young woman stuck in a wheelchair for the rest of her life because of a drunk driver.
3. Detach from Unrealistic Expectations
We all often have unrealistic expectations in life.
Whether or not you are a perfectionist, sometimes your expectations of a person or a situation are unrealistic.
It can lead to a lot of disappointment. Start looking at the situation and deciding if your expectations make sense for it or not.
If you expect too much, taper back if your expectation makes it impossible to achieve.
4. Choose Self-Love
You have broken free from where you felt stuck. Be gentle with yourself.
It is hard to get going again and enjoy the life you have if you can’t take the time to practice some self-love.
The first step to doing this is to make that inner critic go away. Making changes for yourself often affects others and makes you feel responsible.
When all you hear in your mind are how you are imperfect, selfish, and not as good as others, you can feel down and depressed.
Start by showing yourself some compassion and see what a difference it makes. We owe it to ourselves to live our lives and not someone else’s life for them.
5. Ask for Support
Sometimes, you need to bring in some support to give you the help you desire and deserve.
You are strong and powerful, but you can’t do everything alone.
Bring in some support to see how they can help you and make you feel better. This support can come from friends and family members.
Be open to seeking help from a professional, such as a therapist, who can assist you in looking deep down and working through some of your other issues.
While it may be expected to get stuck in life sometimes and feel you are always on autopilot.
It doesn’t mean you need to stay in that situation forever. Learning to enjoy life and jump right in is one of the best ways to get going again.
I have as-needed coaching available, and if this would be something you’d be interested in, contact me for a free one-hour discovery call.
If you have any particular challenges, let me know. I’ll include it in my content.
Starting today, make yourself a priority and begin living your best life.
But before we go, always remember to
Be true to your magnificent self,
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