Boost Your Confidence

7 Things You Can Do Right Now

by Marlene Wagner

 

Boosting your self-confidence

Confidence is a funny thing. When we have it, we tend not to think about it.

 We go out, and we do things. We probably don’t even realize just how amazing some of those things are.

But when confidence has taken a sharp blow, suddenly everything becomes more difficult.

Even getting started on something so simple as a new project or talking to a stranger can seem daunting.

The world becomes a much more complicated and challenging place.

So, if you need confidence, you’re in the right place.

 Read on to find out about some smart things you can do to boost your confidence right now.

 

Make a List

Are you caught up in a spiral of thinking you never do anything?

You’ve never really accomplished anything significant in your life, or you’ve failed at everything you have tried doing?

This is thinking negatively, but it may be more you lack the confidence to do more in your life.

Defeat this negative thought process and start making a list of everything you’ve accomplished. Make a list of your significant achievement and all the small ones as well.

You may have a college degree. That’s a significant achievement.  You may have a great job, or you may own your own business.

You may be an excellent cook and make a mean signature dish of some sort. You’ll very likely be pleasantly surprised to find out just how capable you are. 

Let’s take this exercise a little further.  Now make a list of things you tried to do and failed at it.

We all have failed at one thing or another and numerous times at that.  But it doesn’t make us failures.

Let’s take this even further. Now make a list of things you’d like to do, but you’re stopping yourself. 

Now we are at the core of the real problem.  We stop ourselves from doing things when we don’t have the confidence to do them. 

Most of us don’t have confidence when trying something new or something we’ve never done before.

Lacking the confidence to do what we want to do is taking us out of our comfort zone. 

We will never grow or be satisfied with our lives if we never do that’s new and uncomfortable. 

Pick one thing from your list and decided to accomplish that one thing now. Keep working at it until you master it.

 

Learn New Things

Nothing makes you feel more confident than having the feeling you know what you’re doing. With this in mind, become an expert somewhere.

How about learning how to make the best-mixed drinks, take up a hobby you’ve been thinking about forever, or get a skill certification at your local community college?

When you enjoy learning new things, your confidence muscle gets stronger and stronger.  You’ll look forward to the challenge when learning something new.

If you want to do something, you may experience some failures or sometimes numerous failures, but you can learn to love the challenge until you succeed.

 

Dress the part

When you look your best, you can’t help but feel confident. Always wear clothing that makes you feel like a million bucks.

This is one of the fastest ways to boost your self-confidence. 

We have all experienced feeling confident when we know we look good. We stand taller and throw our shoulders back. 

We have also experience wearing certain clothes we feel don’t look the best in.  We don’t have the same confidence when we think we don’t look good with what we are wearing. 

Why would anyone want to keep something that isn’t flattering on us?

Unfortunately, many people hang on to and wear clothes that don’t make them look their best.

 I recommend clearing your closet of all the clothes you don’t feel right in and get rid of them.

Next, replace these items with clothes that look good, make you look and feel great.

 

Understand Your Belief System

Do you hold with certain moral or religious beliefs? Why? Having your values questioned has a way of demoralizing even the most confident person.

On the other hand, have a clear understanding of what you believe will give you the confidence to share these beliefs with those around you.

We acquire our beliefs in many ways throughout our lives.

Often the problems we have as adults were beliefs we were raised with.  These beliefs don’t always serve us very well, but they are so ingrained that we don’t realize it.

Many beliefs were formed during our academic years.

So much of what we believe comes from what someone else believes in, and we can’t stand up to why we believe it. 

When beliefs are challenged, and you don’t know why you believe them, your self-confidence suffers.

However, when you know, understand, and are clear why you believe something, you will stand up to your challenges and defend your belief.

Start questioning what you believe and get clear on why you believe it.

 

Do What Scares You

Nothing builds confidence more than achieving something you previously thought was beyond your capabilities.

For some, that might be something super adventurous, like skydiving. For others, even talking to a stranger can be terrifyingly daunting.

What scares you?  What is that one thing you know you’d like to do but your scared to do it?

Some won’t even try. These are people that have held themselves back from many things in their lives because they were scared to do it.

Then you have the other extreme, and that’s the person that lets nothing stop them and takes the leap.

Most people are somewhere in between the two extremes.

There are many ways to achieve something that scares you.  Here are just a few methods to keep you moving towards a project that scares you.

Let’s start with the most common fear most people have, and that’s public speaking. 

 I recommend joining companies designed to help overcome the fear of public speaking and most effective in doing so. 

They are Toastmasters and Dale Carnage.  You may never get over being fearful of public speaking, but you learn how to control your fear and the anxiety that comes with it. 

 So, either way, you win and conquer something you were afraid to do.

Another method to help you do what scares you find someone that’s already done it and let them coach you through the process.

As an author, I’ve come to know other authors who wanted to write a book but were afraid they couldn’t do it. 

Many hire coaches and help them through the process.

Maybe you are interested in cooking but afraid you wouldn’t know how to be a good cook. 

 You can take cooking classes or just watching cooking shows on Television, or YouTube can teach you. 

Whatever that is that scares you, help is available to get started and see you through it.

You may be a single person, and it scares you to approach someone you’re interested in.  There are dating coaches to help with that too. 

Think about what you’d like to do and dare to do that something you never thought you’d do.

 

Be Inspired

Feeling like you can’t achieve what you want to?

Find books, videos, or documentaries on people who’ve done something similar. Confidence comes from knowing what you want in life is possible.

If they can do it, you can too!  This ties in near to the above content.

Feeling you can’t achieve something you want to do is simply a false belief about yourself. If you believe it, you can achieve it.

Any time you limit yourself, it’s almost always what you believe about yourself.

You believe you can’t achieve it because that is what you are thinking and telling yourself.

I highly recommend you start learning about others that have done it and often under tremendous obstacles. 

This should inspire you and the belief in yourself to do what it is you want to do.

 

Analyze Your Actions

You are feeling like you’ve been making nothing but the wrong decisions? It’s hard to feel confident when your moral compass is taking a beating.

We will all make wrong decisions at times in our lives.

Of course, we want to make as few mistakes as possible.

How do you make your decisions initially?  Do you make decisions quickly or think about a decision for a time before making it?

We have different decision-making processes. Think about your thought process when you need to make a decision.

This exercise could help avoid decision making mistakes.

If you make decisions rapidly, what was the reason for making the rapid decision? Did you take time to think about the decision from every angle? 

How will this decision serve you, and what if anything could go wrong if you decide or don’t decide on what’s before you.

What consequences could there be in the decision to pass or to go forward?

If you are slow in making decisions, this could be detrimental as well. You’ve given yourself time to evaluate and think about it.

This is a good thing.  You could also take too long in deciding and either talk yourself out of it or lose the offer.

If you regret the outcome, you may be calling this a bad decision. 

 My suggestion is to look at how you make decisions and note the feelings and beliefs that come up as you do this exercise.

It will give you great insight and how you can have better results in the future.

You can gain back confidence in your decisions knowing how you make them and have better results.

In all of this, remember the most important thing is to be true to yourself.

You’ll never feel confident if you’re caught up in trying to be something you’re not.

Be true to yourself first and foremost. The rest will follow.

 These confidence boosters and exercises work for both men and women. If you’d like more information like this, please let me know what would help you.

In the meantime, check out more content on my website at www.attractloveatanyage.com

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Always be true to your greatness,

Coach Marlene

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