The Ultimate Guide To Midlife Dating
Do You Want To Know The #1 Secret to Insure Midlife Dating Success?
by Marlene Wagner
What Do You Really Want?
I’ve worked with many women that have no clue or clarity on the type of man they want. How can you find something when you don’t know what you’re looking for?
How would you even know if you found it. Women spend more time planning a vacation or their yearly wardrobe than on something as important as a lifelong mate.
In this article, I will show you how you can create the ideal man and relationship.
I will be discussing how you can gain clarity on what you really want in a man and how you want an ideal relationship to look like.
We will discuss how you will know exactly what you are looking for before you even get out there and start dating again. Or if you are dating and experiencing dating disasters, you can change all that now.
I believe most relationships and marriages are by default.
What do I mean by default? You date to meet a man you can fall in love with and have a relationship with. That’s usually how it starts.
You’re looking for the “hot” guy you hope will rock your boat. You know the tall good looking one.
Usually that’s about as far as your wish list for a relationship goes. I know, I’ve done it too so I know what I’m talking about.
The tall, hot guy makes his move, you connect and yes, he’s rocking your boat before the first few hours end.
By the second date you are already having sex and because you just can’t be apart from one another you now move in together.
This is how a default relationship begins.
After several month you still don’t really know one another, at least the important things that you should know about each other.
Eventually the passion settles down and you settle in for long term. Things are not perfect and often there is friction but you both hang in and eventually you marry or at least into a long term relationship.
Soon you become parents and life you dreamed of having is nothing like the life you’re living. All too often it comes to an end with bitterness and divorce. You wonder how did it all go so wrong?
I have just described a relationship by default.
There was no plan or a clear understanding of what you really wanted in a relationship and the chips fell where they did.
You didn’t know what you wanted and what you got was nothing what you thought it was going to be.
How to know what you want and know what you are looking for.
No more default relationships. Let’s change all that right now. Knowing very specifically what you want in a guy is crucial.
Get out paper and pencil and start describing the ideal man and relationship you want. Describe what your ideal man looks like physically.
Get as detailed as you can. What’s his style? Is he a shorts and flip flops kind of guy or is he a suit, white shirt and tie guy?
What is his fitness level? Do you like them fit and trim? Or maybe that doesn’t matter to you.
What are his Personality Traits?
List all that you’d want your guy to possess. Sense of humor, intelligence, confidence etc. Keep going, list everything important to you that you want your ideal man to be.
What are his Skills?
Is he romantic? Is he a good listener? Is he good in bed? Can he rock a tool belt or do you prefer a tech geek? What is his earning potential? Does he help with the housework?
What are his Top Characteristics?
Is he faithful? Is he dependable? Is he kind? Does he have integrity?
Spend as much time on this exercise as you’d like. Describe the lifestyle and the relationship that would be your ideal.
Knowing what you’re looking for is critical. This is the first step the women I coach start with so we know exactly what we’re looking for.
Be great to your magnificent self,