Embrace Your Imperfections

Focus on Who You Are

By Marlene Wagner


At some point in our lives, we start comparing ourselves to others.

It can start when we’re young, and as years go on, it can create a negative self-image and, worse, manifest into other behavioral issues.

There will always be someone with something we don’t have and want. We feel flawed if we don’t fit into the norms of society.

The narrative of not measuring up is destructive.

Any chance I have, I will shed another light on what we deem imperfect about ourselves.

I’ll share an example I have in my book of a beautiful young woman I knew who had gotten cancer on her nose.

After removing the cancer through surgery, she was left with an unsightly mark on her nose.

Corrective surgery required skin grafts from another part of her face.

Fortunately, she could accept how her appearance was affected during this process.

However, after all, was said and done, she was left with a small scar on her nose, and all she saw every time she looked at herself was that scar.

It was hardly noticeable, but what she saw was magnified.

She felt it was all everybody saw when they looked at her.

As I said, it was barely noticeable. I knew I had to help change her mindset about this scar.

I had to get her to look at it another way.

One day, when she was talking about her scar, I said but just think you beat cancer!

You let cancer know not to mess with you, and you kicked cancer to the curb.

Then, I added more to her self-talk.

Every day, when you look at that scar on your nose, it’s a beautiful reminder of your battle with cancer, and you won!

Her entire deminer changed! We turned a negative thought about the scar into a positive attitude. 

Now, if the scar is mentioned or someone asks about it, she proudly answers yeah, I beat cancer.

I kick cancer to the curb.

And that brings me to the message this month.


Embrace Your Imperfections

Are you someone wrapped up in your imperfections? It could get in the way of a happy, fulfilled life if you are.

We all have imperfections. Many fight against their flaws, harshly criticizing themselves for not being perfect.

As my friend did in the story, I shared.

There is a lot of pressure in society today to be a perfect person.

It just isn’t possible, so most end up feeling like a failure or develop feelings of self-hatred.

If you want to learn to love yourself, embracing your imperfections is vital.

Here, we’ll look at why embracing your imperfections is essential and the benefits it can deliver.


Your Positive Imperfections

When you start to embrace your imperfections, you’ll begin to see them more positively.

Believe it or not, imperfections have some positives, just as in the story I shared.

For example, if you suffer from anxiety, you may beat yourself up for not being able to do certain things that come easy to others.

Take a look at just when the anxiety kicks in. Under what conditions or circumstances?

A positive of anxiety is that it often makes you empathetic.

That’s a great trait to have in an often cruel world.

The way you can turn it into a positive is if you spot someone who’s having anxiety, start a conversation with them.

Help them feel less anxious.

Empathize with them and share that you also suffer from anxiety, so you know how they feel.

That in itself will help them feel more relaxed and less anxious.

Possibly, you can help them put a positive spin on their anxiety.

Now, if you are aware of it or not, you have turned your anxiety into a positive.

Flaws are also considered more attractive than you might realize.

So, look for the positives in your flaws and realize everyone has them.


Feel Free

Being so caught up in your imperfections can make you feel trapped under constant pressure.

By embracing them, it helps to set you free.

Nothing is more freeing than living without the constant weight of your expectations.

Once you accept your flaws, you’ll feel like a weight has been lifted.


Focus on Who You Are

Being so focused on your imperfections can stop you from being who you are.

It causes you to chase an ideal that you aren’t ever going to live up to.

However, your authentic self will shine through when you let go of your imperfections.

So, if you feel like you have lost who you wanted to be, start letting go of your need to be perfect.


Living Healthier

Living your life and always focusing on your imperfections isn’t healthy.

It impacts your perspective, causing you to make choices you wouldn’t necessarily make if you weren’t so caught up in your flaws.

Constantly stressing over the things that you are not will hurt your health.

So, to improve your overall health and well-being, you’ll want to start embracing your imperfections.

These are just some reasons you need to learn to embrace your flaws.

While it may be difficult, you start thinking more positively about your imperfections with practice.

Remember, nobody in life is perfect. Looking around and looking at people, you will see how each person is unique.

No one is perfect and never will be. We live in a world filled with every size, shape, and color.

Each of us is uniquely who we are, including all the marks from living, some call imperfections. Embrace yours.

There is much more I’d like to say about this, but as you all know, I try to keep these to a certain length.

So, more will come on this topic at another time.

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Until next time, starting today, make yourself a priority and begin living your best life.


But before we go, always remember to


Be true to your magnificent self,
Coach Marlene


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